Today’s dare: Commit to mentioning positive attributes about your kids every day throughout the coming week. Do it both privately to them as well as publicly to friends and family.
Questions from Day 12 dare on page 59: What attributes came to mind for each of your children? How did you express it to them? What was their response?
Quote from The Love Dare For Parents, page 58
Love stays busy looking for reasons to affirm good character and behavior in our kids, no matter how old they get. Even if your children are grown, you can still find ways to highlight the little things they do that make you proud.
Making a new habit of saying positive things about your kids and to your kids every day will go a long way for you and your children. It helps the parents focus on the god-given qualities your children are expressing. That helps you not focus on little things they are doing wrong.
Your children will feel better about themselves when they hear over and over again that mom or dad sees the good in them. It doesn’t feel good at all to have a parent rarely ever say positive things about you. When parents belittle their children in public and in private, it changes the children inside.
It’s up to us as parents to follow scripture in raising our children:
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. ~ Ephesians 4:29
Growing up, I was beyond thankful for two female relatives. I knew with certainty that any time I was in their presence, they would uplift me. They believed in me and saw the best in me when other adults in my life were not. I wouldn’t be the person I am today if those two women had not poured forth words of affirmation.
Enjoy making the day 12 dare a new part of your every day life.